There are a lot of things in this hobby that frustrate me. Shady people, shading dealings, and folks who live to throw shade. I could write volumes about the worst elements in tabletop roleplaying. These posts are meant to be positive and upbeat, though. So, I’ll focus on how I deal with that sort of drama and nonsense.
tl;dr I don’t deal with it at all.
Look, life is short. Game design is hard. Preparing to run a campaign takes time. I’m not wasting precious and finite resources on the rude, cruel, and willfully ignorant. This is why Dancing Lights Press doesn’t have a presence on the big RPG forums. We limit our social media exposure for a reason. I try to ensure that all communication is professional. Part of that is refusing to deal with anyone that’s not behaving in a polite and civil manner.
Yes, there are ways to carefully curate who and what you see online. That takes time, which as a one-person operation I don’t have tons of. How I use that time needs to be managed. In my opinion, the best way to communicate with people is through blog posts. You can leave comments. You can send me emails. It’s not in the best interests of myself, my business, or my customers to try to police internet trolls.
How to Deal with Shade in the RPG Community
RPGaDay is an annual event held each August. It asks tabletop gamers to use provided daily prompts to express something fun, interesting, and positive about the hobby. David F. Chapman (Autocratik), the award-winning game designer, created it.
About Dancing Lights Press
Dancing Lights Press is a lo-fi publisher of tabletop roleplaying systems and system-agnostic creative aids, including the best selling Building series, the DoubleZero action thriller system, and Hippogryph, a fantasy story game system with traditional roots. Our products embrace a minimalist aesthetic in design and presentation because roleplaying is an activity, not a collection of expensive rulebooks.